Several years ago, I read a book by Gary Smalley titled The Five Love Languages. The premise of the book is that there are five ways to express and experience love and everyone has one primary love language. The five types of love languages include, quality time, words of affirmation, gift giving, acts of service, and physical touch.
I learned early on that Faith’s primary love language is quality time. It was clear early on that this was Faith’s love language. When my wife was still alive, those two spent hours together playing, coloring, doing yard work, and just sitting down talking to one another. My wife made it a point to interact with her in ways that involved eye contact, listening, and letting Faith just talk. The more they did this, the better. This is what made her feel loved.
There are several ways I tap into Faith’s love language. Every day, we have a conversation while we eat dinner together and talk about each other’s day. She loves to share about what she did at school or what her teacher told her during class. She gets so excited when she can share.
Then there are times like tonight where she and I laid on the bed listening to songs on my iPhone. When it was time for her to go to bed, she looked at me before she made her way to her bedroom and said, “daddy, you are my best friend.” What she said was, daddy, thanks for speaking my love language!